Sweetheart

Recently a lot of these topics have been related to the way people see and interprate others' relationships, and this post is no different. Today I wanted to talk about the way people view high school relationships. If you haven't guessed yet that J. and I are in high school, allow me to clarify. Right now, we are both 17 and both juniors at the same high school. We are also very very in love... You know, the kind of love that makes your head spin every time you kiss and makes you dream about futures together and makes you forget that you are, indeed, not only a minor, but also not yet finished primary education. Sigh.

Several people like to bring up the following point within the context I've just given you: how important can a high school relationahip be, anyway??

Before I even answer this with my own opinions I'll tell you a few stories. One of the greatest, strongest couples I have ever had the privelage of meeting started dating in their junior year of high school, when they met in the marching band (which J. and I happen to be in). Now they have been married about eight years and have four amazing beautiful children. Another woman I know, an old teacher of mine, also married her high school sweetheart from her sophomore year- 50 odd years ago. One of my grandparents whom I never had the privelage of meeting also married their high school love.

Now obviously, these cases are not too common-- not every intense relationship that begins in high school lasts. However, the stories do prove that some relationships do indeed last through the school years and into old age.

Now my own opinion... Like most of my beliefs, I really think this entire situation depends entirely on the type of people involved and the circumstances accompanying the relationship. There is no instant 'shake n bake' recipe to guarantee that a high school relationship will last. I do think, though, that sometimes when you are with someone you really love, you can honestly feel in your heart and mind that they are the only person in the world in whom you will ever find intense happiness and completion. I also believe that you can find this person at any point in your lifetime. Why should you have to be a certain age to you find your second half, your soul mate?? I've read several stories about not only high school sweethearts, but also playmates from childhood becoming amazing married couples, and I don't think that these situations hold any less validity than "classic" marriage stories.

On that note, I accept that I cannot possibly know 100% if J. is in fact my soul-mate until the future becomes the present and eventually the past. But I do know that I would never in a million years want my soul mate and future husband to be anyone but this amazing man. I only consider myself more lucky that I have found him so early in my life.

What do you think about high school relationships? Do you have a cute high school sweethearts story?? Let me know!

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