Heterosexual

Obviously I've expressed before that I'm a girl and I'm dating J., and that we are both straight, but I wanted to bring up why I'm pro-lgbt.

Last post, I talked about what the word love means to me. It's a feeling deeper than other feelings and it makes me feel all sorts of ways I can't describe. Because I feel sexually attracted to males (well, J. specifically), I date and find romantic relationships with them, but I do not restrict my abilities to love to males only. So while I'm straight, I can easily put my mind in the point of view to see how it is possible for any person, if they wished, to love any other person, as fiercely and strongly as I love J..

Following that point, love is not something we can control. Love happens, and we are swept away in its currents. While we sometimes take a while to notice that we're floating and not standing on solid ground, we still get carried away. Love is not something we can turn on and off and change and manipulate. It takes control of our bodies and minds and we do crazy insane irrational things all in the name of love. Maybe it's inefficient, maybe it's reckless, or maybe it's just living to fulfill our full capacity as a thinking, feeling, breathing, human being.

My concept of what we are as humans is big and complicated, but a part of it is that we are all beings with a capacity and tendency to be loved and to give love, and to take love away when we think we deserve it more. Our instincts are old and outdated and we have vestigial organs, and while reproduction may be vital to the survival of the human race, it's not a prerequisite for personal intimate relationships, and certainly not a deciding factor.

Secondly, since every single person is different, and capable of different abilities to love, and different tendencies to love, nobody can dictate who somebody else may love. If we can not control the way we love ourselves, how can anybody else be allowed to do it for us? Nobody has a say in who, how, when, or why we love another person.

All that being said, of course I support lgbt in general... I believe that people need to make their own decisions when it comes to love (if it's possible to make decisions about love in the first place) and that nobody has power over anybody else about this. Love itself is a natural thing-- it's part of who and what we are made to be. The direction of that capacity does not matter. That's like saying everybody with skilled hands should go into making furniture... But all the chairs in the world are unnecessary if there is no art, no clothing, no surgery, no architecture... People choose the direction they go in life. That's natural.

What do you think about lgbt? No hate here :P

See you when I see you.
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